|I love you dad!|
There are times in life when you just think you are getting somewhere and then suddenly a left hook comes out of nowhere and deposits you firmly on your ass. You couldn’t prep for it, know about it, think about it or even fathom it…until it happens.
On December 5 at 2:30pm atlantic time, my dad, David James Howard, passed away. I’m sitting here looking at these black and white letters wondering why I’m even writing this…it may, like so many other posts, go unfinished as I wash the letters from my keys with tears. So many things to say but really only feeling one thing…like a great love has been stuffed inside my chest, forced there, more love than I ever thought I could contain inside. I never realized how much I loved him until now as horrible as that may be. I’d like to think that at the moment of passing he breathed his last breathe while thinking of all of us, everyone he touched, loved and cared for. Wishing us all a life of love and happiness! Wishing us reconciliation with past battles in order to have the best futures we can make for ourselves! His laugh echoing off the edges of the universe while his watchful eye is on us, not there to help anymore, just there to love unconditionally.
My dad, “Pops, the big guy, the old man…my hero (never really used that one as much as I should have)” has one of the most legendary hugs on the face of the earth. I am remembering him and my mom at the airport last time I was home to visit. Each one taking turns squeezing me, loving me. He made sure to ask me if I could come home again and visit in January as that visit was ultimately too short for the amount of time we hadn’t seen each other. I agreed, nothing sounded better than getting those squeezes from them sooner than later. It’s strange, 20yrs ago, they were just hugs. Now…they are like gold bricks, everyone is precious and something to cherish.
Dad was the big man, not just in size but in capacity. Bigger than I can imagine and I imagine that I’ll be seeing just how big he was as I get older and life throws more left hooks.
He leaves behind a family that loves him so much. Loving wife, three children and a fan base that anyone would be lucky to have at any point in their life. The tears being shed tonight from coast to coast are what life is all about. Live, love, laugh! He did all that and more.
No regrets Dad! It would have never been long enough no matter what the time. I am happy you aren’t suffering. I love you, will always love you and will carry forth your spirit every day.
Peace out and be good to each other